Stop Caring What Others Think!

I can hear you asking now: 'yeah well if that's true, why do I struggle to achieve my goals?'

There are several possible reasons for this, but the one I want to address in this article is a common, often insidious one, called 'The Fear of Man'. This fear manifests itself in many ways but its root cause is giving a hoot about what others think of you and what you do/how you look, etc.

See if you can relate to *any* of the following:

- You have a great idea but you don't share it with anyone because you are concerned that they won't think it's worth going for.

- You are supposed to call prospects for your business on the phone but you don't because you don't want to be 'rejected'.

- You are scared to profess your faith in God because of 'what others will think about you'.

- You care about the impression you make on others more than you care about doing what's right.

- You are in network marketing but are afraid to tell your friends because you don't want them to think of you as being 'one of those people'.

- You tell a lie because you're afraid of what might happen to you if you are honest. Eg you fear you may lose friends, customers, etc.

The list of examples could go on and on, and I'm sure you could add several examples here yourself.

The point is this: these examples have one common underlying cause: 'The Fear of Man'. This is a condition where your concern about what others may say about you or think about you influences your actions.

Like other fears, this one is deadly because it is a sure-fire blocker on the path to your achieving your goals.

And really it has one antidote: Walk in love towards God, yourself and towards others. Notice that 'walking in love' implies taking positive action, and action is a sure fire way to overcome any fear.

Walking in love towards God means you obey what He says you should do, which can be summarized thus: Love God with all your might, mind, strength and Love your fellow man as yourself.

I teach a lot about The Universal Laws. God put them in place, and if you walk in harmony with them, you're obeying His laws - they guarantee that you can achieve your goals with minimal (physical) effort. My favorite book for studying these laws is the Bible, as you may have guessed by now. Why? Because the stuff in there works. Because any thinking individual who reads it and does what it says will prove for him/herself that the information in it is as relevant and practical today as it's always been.

Walking in love towards yourself means that you respect yourself and your ideas. You don't look down on yourself and you refuse to be put down by anyone else. You are proud to be you. You know you are worth it.

You are comfortable in your own skin. And it shows. What others think is their problem. It doesn't affect you because you refuse to let it affect you. You set a desire and, as long as it is good and appropriate, you get to work on making it come to pass. You believe in yourself. You know you've got what it takes. And you succeed because you expect to.

Walking in love towards others means you relate to everyone you meet in the best possible way (the way you'd like to be treated) and do so without expecting anything back from them.

That's the essence of being detached - you don't expect anything back from the other person, so you're not devastated or disappointed by their response however they respond to you.

If you walk in love towards someone, you really do want what's best for them. When this is your underlying mindset, what's there to be afraid of? If they say 'no' to your offer, that's fantastic because you've done your part (by letting them know what's available to meet their need). If they say 'yes', that's fantastic too.

When this is your mindset, you have nothing to hide, so need to cower behind lies and all sorts of falsehood. You walk in confidence wherever you are. You are free to make friends and build relationships without any hidden agenda and ulterior motive.

By doing this, you position yourself to attract your desires and manifest your goals. You will notice that the main effort you need to exert in this exercise is mental. That's why the physical/outward effort appears minimal and in some cases, effortless.

Beware the fear of man. No fellow human being is worth standing between you and your goal. So do what this article says and defeat this monster for good.

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START NOW!

However, she has no plans to make the squeeze page public until she has perfectly and completely finished creating the information product.

I had a look at the squeeze page in question and it is fantastic! It's complete, ready to start generating leads for this lady.

Yet it's there, doing nothing. Waiting for the perfect product on the other side of the page.

'Makes sense', you might think.

Ah, but the problem with this is that the squeeze page has been ready for AGES! And the product is still not complete. Yet it's a very simple product, and she's actually almost completed it.

I'm going to share with you what I told her.

I told her to go ahead and release the squeeze page already, WHILE working on the end product.

This is because she is in the danger of falling into the trap of 'perfection paralysis'- where you are paralysed into inaction because you are 'waiting for things to be perfect before you get started'.

If you look deep inside yourself, 'perfection paralysis' is really a disguise for fear or lack of courage. Fear of failure, fear of succ ess, fear of rejection.

It takes boldness to step out and do something you've never done before.

But start off, anyway and learn as you go along, tweaking and improving as necessary. This is how perfection happens - it's a gradual thing.

When a baby is learning to walk, she takes the first step - it's clumsy, not perfect, but that baby doesn't wait to have the perfect step before she takes that first one. (for how can she perfect something she's not working on constantly?)

Learn from that little baby then, for you were once her/him. You once learnt to walk the way I've just described above. So you know you've got what it takes to perfect any task you set your heart to do, but don't let the fact everything's not perfect yet, stop you from stepping out anyway.

Take action! Start NOW!

Sure you will make mistakes and fall but just pick yourself right up and keep doing what you're doing (as long as you're doing the right things, that is :) )

In due course you will achieve your desired outcome.

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Be FREE!

Hint: this new 'movement' has nothing to do with feminism.

This is a movement which aims to liberate every woman from *self-imposed* limitations, shackles and obstacles which are preventing her from living life to the fullest. These barriers keep you from achieving success in every area of your life. And they are all within you, so don't be looking outside of yourself for someone or something to be liberated from. Good news is, the solution is all within you as well.

The new 'Women's Liberation Movement' aims to help you access this solution so that you can live your best life on a daily basis.

Are you a woman?

Do you feel unfulfilled in certain areas of your life? Does your life lack balance? Do you suffer from little self-confidence or low self-esteem? Would you like to enjoy your relationships, both with your significant other and with your friends, family and colleagues? Do you desire to be financially and emotionally independent? Do you desire total success?

If you've answered 'yes' to any of these questions, then 'The New Women's Liberation Movement' is for you.

What is this new movement?

It really is a mindset, a mental program which empowers you to be all you can be, no matter what you do. It is a way of thinking and a way of doing things which is not common but is guaranteed to bring about results once you adopt it.

You see, the reason for every challenge and adversity you face can be traced down to yourself directly or indirectly. Of course you have not deliberately put yourself in an undesirable position, but in all likelihood, you have attracted that situation to yourself.

And no, this is not pollyanna-ish jargon.

This is about accepting responsibility: the moment you accept responsibility for where you are right now, you begin to empower yourself to make the necessary changes to improve your situation.

When you join in The New Women's Liberation Movement, you will experience Total Success in every area of your life. You will discover the fool-proof, tired and tested formula for attracting the things and people you desire into your life, and you will be doing this with integrity every step of the way.

How Do You Join the new Women's Liberation Movement?

By simply deciding to. Decide that from today: you are turning your life around; you will achieve your goals and dreams; you will enjoy every day you are blessed with; you will be free from your limiting beliefs and negative influences. Once you make this decision in your private, quiet corner (you're not doing this for anyone else, but for you), you will become aware of all the resources available around you, to make things happen for you (when the student is ready...)

You must be willing and prepared to do the work involved though.

Laziness (mental, intellectual, emotional and physical laziness) will leave you imprisoned in a world of mediocrity, poverty and misery. Diligence, when applied to the Emancipation/Liberation Formula(TM), will raise you above your current circumstances and usher you into a world of Total Success and Abundance.

You will know if this message is for you. If it is, if you are indeed ready and feel that enough (mediocrity and just getting by) is enough, then...

Your time is now!

Get emancipated from your limiting beliefs!

Break through your mental and emotional barriers and begin to experience Total Success!

As a woman thinketh, so is she (mostly because her thoughts determine her actions, which in turn determine her results).

(Choose to) be FREE!

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You're All That!

Do you see yourself as a successful, confident, fit and toned woman? Or do you see yourself as a victim, a fat and ugly woman? Do you treat yourself with respect? Cos if you don't, nobody else will.

You've got to be your own biggest fan, your best friend, your closest ally. You've got to realise that people treat you the way you ask to be treated, based on the way you see yourself. If you do not like the way you are treated or spoken to, look in the mirror: ask yourself some hard questions: how do you see yourself?

Love yourself. Be good to yourself. Respect yourself. What you think of yourself makes ALL the difference in the world, not what others think of you (matter of fact they may not be thinking of you to start with!). You create your own self image, and from that image stems your behaviours and experiences.

So from today, see yourself as 'all that'. See yourself as a beautiful woman, a confident, successful woman. See yourself as a fit, healthy, toned woman, fulfilled and satisfied with herself as is.

Focus on this image of you, and you will find that you treat yourself differently. As a result, you will find that others will treat you differently too.

Cos girl, "you're all that, baby!"

About the Author: Dr Kem Thompson is a General Practitioner, Author and Speaker. She specializes in Healthy Lifestyle medicine and is passionate about Health & Fitness, Personal Development, Success Principles and Women's issues. Subscribe today to her no-nonsense FREE 'Health & Success Newsletter' to receive practical tips, techniques and strategies you can use NOW to improve your health and life. You will receive 2 thank-you gifts when you subscribe at http://www.doctorkem.com

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Be Confident, Woman!

I can relate to the way she must have felt, having gone through something similar several years ago, but in order to help her shorten the time it would take her to bounce back, I told her what I'm about to share with you.

You've got every reason to be confident; you've got what it takes to create and live a good life and it's your choice to do so. Regardless of what you've gone through in your life to date, the way you feel about yourself, and the way you see yourself, are entirely up to you.

Now I do not say this lightly. I say this as someone who's been through some pretty rough life experiences, including one which damaged my self esteem from a young age until I realized that I had the power to heal my self esteem and build my own self confidence, then my new found knowledge got tested quite a few times in my adult life also, and I can testify that this is true: your (chosen) thoughts about yourself, your (chosen) beliefs about yourself, your (chosen) images about yourself, are the main factors that determine how you feel about yourself.

No matter what you've been through, let me assure you now that you've got within you, everything you need, to overcome any negative feelings of low self esteem, generated by those past experiences, and may I suggest that you CHOOSE to overcome them NOW!

It really starts with the simple realisation and decision to let go of all negative feelings, to forgive all who have wronged you (you're the one to benefit when you forgive others, just as you're the one to suffer from carrying grudges around with you...like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die...).

So I told my friend to forgive the man (not saying it's easy, but deciding to do so is the first step) - ask God to help her forgive him and release all ill feelings towards him. Without doing this she cannot move on and the negative feelings will erode her self confidence. Next thing is to discipline her thoughts so that she only allows good healthy positive, empowering thoughts about herself and her potential in her mind. She has to refuse to engage in pity parties including those sponsored by well-meaning friends: these only serve to keep you down and further eat away at your confidence.

As you can see, vigilance is necessary at all times: mental, spiritual, emotional, even physical (being confident includes the way you carry yourself when you walk, the way you dress, the way you sound when you speak, the words you speak) - take care to see to it that in thought, word and deed, you ARE confident.

Work on being the best YOU that you can be, a beautiful, empowered, liberated woman from the inside and out, one who is content and at peace with herself. That way, you're not needy in any way, and will, if you so desire, attract the right man for yourself, knowing that without a man, you are still confident, beautiful, empowered and liberated!

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Know Thyself...

Quit focusing on outward things, which are really reflections of what goes on inside your mind.

You are not your body. You are not your possessions. You are a spirit being made in God's image. Your body houses the real you.

Your natural state is perfect health and abundance (for spirit does not know sickness nor poverty).

If your current (outward) reality does not reflect this, it is because you have let your circumstances control your life. Or, as someone put it, it is because you suffer from spiritual amnesia.

Knowing and acknowledging who you really are, and the implications of this Truth, and meditating on what it means, will put you in a position to cause your physical reality to reflect your true inner reality: perfect health, joy and abundance.

A healthy self-image, based on a foundation of the Knowledge of who you really are, is the starting point of all achievement, for you will never outperform the image you have of yourself.

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What I Like About Beyonce Knowles

They come to me in a state of quiet desperation and lack of hope, but more dangerously, they come in an attitude of need (you know, the 'I need a man' type of mentality).

If you know anyone like this, listen up close.

You don't 'need' a man. You don't 'need' anyone in order to be phenomenally attractive. You don't 'need' anyone's approval either ... except God's and yours.

The first part is easy. God loves and approves of you inspite of all the drama in your life. He may not always approve of the things you *do*, but you as a person, you've got God's approval in the bag, so no sweat there.

The big problem however, is how you feel about yourself.

When you don't feel good about yourself, for whatever reason, you are trapped into feeling you need approval from others to be somebody. You feel the sentiments expressed in songs like 'I can't live without you' ( a very needy, disempowering, limiting-belief-inducing, self-esteem crushing sentiment).

Girl, you've got to love yourself, inspite of everything.

Love yourself inspite of all your flaws - God loves you inspite of all your flaws so it doesn't matter if nobody else does (yet the truth of the matter is that the moment you begin to love yourself inspite of your flaws, you will begin to attract people who truly love and appreciate you for who you are, the way you are, for who is without their own flaws anyway?)

So, you've got to realize that as you are right now, you're good enough. Sure you daily strive to improve in every possible way, but even on your journey, you're good enough for where you're at.

You don't need a man's love to make you feel complete. All that nonsense is designed to keep you needy enough to fill the pockets of marketers who promote products that claim to help you find that love.

When you become a self-empowered and self-empowering woman, you become irresistable to the opposite sex. You become magnetic. Very attractive.

And all this without 'looking for Mr Right' too.

When you are empowered from within yourself, you are in a position to take your time and choose the partner you are most comfortable with. You're not desperate so you don't go for any guy that chats you up.

You know that you're worth the best and in time the right guy will make his way to you. You don't have to chase after him.

You don't have to dress like a hooker in a bid to 'be attractive'.

Guys can sense neediness and they find it repulsive.

Which brings me to the topic of this blog.

Beyonce Knowles.

One statement she made in her London concert the other day, summarizes what I like about her.

She said 'I'm all about empowering women'. Hear, hear!

She radiates the confidence that comes from within, the type of confidence that says 'I'm all that and a bag of chips, and I don't care if you agree with me or not!'

Do you get the impression that she has a needy bone in her body?

Now don't go listening to the loser gremlins inside your head who are saying things like 'sure she's confident, she's a beautiful woman and a millionaire to boot!'

If you listen to those gremlins saying things like this you're missing the boat entirely.

Remember, you become what you think about the most. It's a chicken and egg scenario. Self-fulfilling prophecy and all that.

First you've got to have an image of yourself as a confident, beautiful, successful, empowered, woman, who does not need any man, nor any person's approval to feel fantastic in her own skin.

That image is what projects out there, see. That image is what determines what you attract into your life, the calibre of people you attract into your life.

That's why women who suffer from domestic violence very often attract men who beat them up. They've got an image of themselves as women who get beaten up. In another blog entry/article I'll share Madea's solution to this sort of thing.

But for now let me leave you with this.

Empowerment is the key to attracting Mr Right. Empowerment is the key to attracting wealth and success into your life.

Empowerment has got to be from within, for your empowerment is all about your self-image.

Don't be waiting for someone to come and empower you cos what happens when they're gone?

To empower yourself, begin today to form an image of the empowered woman you desire to be. What do you look like, what sorts of things are you doing, etc. Create a vivid image of yourself as an empowered woman.

Speak words to yourself which agree with your image. Reject any thoughts of self-depreciation. Refuse to accept any lies about yourself, in spite of your past - your past does not equal your future, so don't think, speak or live as if it does.

Remember that nobody can disempower you or make you feel inferior without your permission.

So stop giving others and things, permission to steal your joy and confidence.

You're all that (and a bag of fat-free chips!)

Be empowered today - it's your choice.

Off the soap-box now :)

Blessings to ya.

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Who Do You Listen To?

In these days of economic turmoil, it's easy to get discouraged and despondent. The media daily sing song of woe, doom and gloom and how 'things are getting worse..'. It's easy to get caught up in that whole negative perspective.


The danger in this is of course that when your mind is in such a state of stinkin' thinkin', it is unable to ...

(a) Be alert to opportunities available for you to thrive financially in the present economic climate - yes, many people are quietly prospering in the midst of the 'recession'. Why not you? It may involve you thinking out of the box, doing certain things differently, etc, but you won't be in the right mental state to even contemplate these opportunities if you allow the media to paint things black and hopeless for you.

(b) Come up with solutions to your current challenges (pretty much the same sentiments as 'a' above).


This is not to say you should deny the existence of an economic crisis. The glass is indeed half empty, but it is also half full.


It simply means you acknowledge the current state of affairs, but then choose to respond to it in a way that leaves you thriving, growing and prospering.


Believe that there is a way for you to thrive in this day and the way will become clear to you.
Take appropriate action in full faith that it will bring about the results you desire.
Listen to tapes, read books, surround yourself with people who are making it inspite of the cries of 'doom and gloom' all around.


The fun in life is in overcoming challenges and thriving in spite of them as opposed to denying the existence of the challenges (pretty much like you can't claim there are no weeds in your garden and affirm 'there are no weeds', thinking that'll make them go away - they'll take over your garden if you do! - rather acknowledge that the weeds exist, then do what you have to do to overcome/get rid of them).


My point is that it is important for you to choose carefully who or what you listen to. Your mind is a fertile garden. Fill it with junk and your mental state will be such that you won't be able to produce results that prosper you. Fill it with good stuff and you will be empowered to see and take advantage of the great opportunities which surround you each day. You will be motivated (from within) to do what it takes to prosper in your field, or a different field if you so choose.


Who're you going to listen to?


Blessings to ya!


Kem

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Why Bother Setting Financial or Health Goals?

Some women wonder why I place a lot of emphasis on helping women achieve financial success or health-related success.

Few reasons, actually:

1) A survey I conducted placed these two at the top of the list (the question was 'what area do you face your biggest frustration'?) - you can take part in the survey here: Survey

2)Financial and Health goals are MEASURABLE. This means you can set specific measurable targets, and measure your progress easily at set intervals. For you to successfully achieve a goal, it must be measurable.

3)When you achieve your financial or health goals, other parts of your life improve as well. This is because the woman you become in the process of achieving those goals, is a woman who literally is empowered to attract all the other good things into her life (better relationships, career success, etc)

So you see, it pays for you to set financial and health goals for yourself. It's the sentiment expressed by Jim Rohn, whose mentor Earl Shoaf told to 'set a goal to become a millionaire for the person you have to become to earn that amount of money'.

It's the principle I applied in my career when I set a goal to excel in a major examination in a short period of time. The amount of studying I had to do in order to score highly in that exam, improved my knowledge base so much that my clinical practice took a quatum leap as well - in the process of achieving my goal of excelling in that exam, I had become a much better doctor .

In setting a specific financial goal for myself, I have had to become a better marketer, communicator, speaker, Coach, Trainer, Writer. These skills of course now benefit me in other areas of my life as well.

The examples go on and on, but I'm sure you get the picture.

My suggestion to you is this:if you wish to turn things around in your life, set a measurable goal for yourself (Eg to earn 'X' amount in the next 8 weeks, or to release 500 grams of excess fat every week) - focus on this goal, taking care to measure your progress as you go along. By the time you have achieved your goal, you will find that you have become a different, better person altogether.

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THE NEW 'WOMEN'S LIBERATION MOVEMENT' IS HERE!

Hint: this new 'movement' has nothing to do with feminism.

This is a movement which aims to liberate every woman from self-imposed limitations, shackles and obstacles which are preventing her from living life to the fullest. These barriers keep you from achieving success in every area of your life. And they are all within you, so don't be looking outside of yourself for someone or something to be liberated from. Good news is, the solution is all within you as well.

The new 'Women's Liberation Movement' aims to help you access this solution so that you can live your best life on a daily basis.

Are you a woman?

Do you feel unfulfilled in certain areas of your life? Does your life lack balance? Do you suffer from little self-confidence or low self-esteem? Would you like to enjoy your relationships, both with your significant other and with your friends, family and colleagues? Do you desire to be financially and emotionally independent? Do you desire total success?

If you've answered 'yes' to any of these questions, then 'The New Women's Liberation Movement' is for you. What is this new movement? It really is a mindset, a mental program which empowers you to be all you can be, no matter what you do. It is a way of thinking and a way of doing things which is not common but is guaranteed to bring about results once you adopt it.

You see, the reason for every challenge and adversity you face can be traced down to yourself directly or indirectly. Of course you have not deliberately put yourself in an undesirable position, but in all likelihood, you have attracted that situation to yourself. And no, this is not pollyanna-ish jargon. This is about accepting responsibility: the moment you accept responsibility for where you are right now, you begin to empower yourself to make the necessary changes to improve your situation.

When you join in The New Women's Liberation Movement, you will experience Total Success in every area of your life. You will discover the fool-proof, tired and tested formula for attracting the things and people you desire into your life, and you will be doing this with integrity every step of the way.

How Do You Join the new Women's Liberation Movement?

By simply deciding to. Decide that from today: you are turning your life around; you will achieve your goals and dreams; you will enjoy every day you are blessed with; you will be free from your limiting beliefs and negative influences. Once you make this decision in your private, quiet corner (you're not doing this for anyone else, but for you), you will become aware of all the resources available around you, to make things happen for you (when the student is ready...)

You must be willing and prepared to do the work involved though.

Laziness (mental, intellectual, emotional and physical laziness) will leave you imprisoned in a world of mediocrity, poverty and misery. Diligence, when applied to the Emancipation/Liberation Formula(TM), will raise you above your current circumstances and usher you into a world of Total Success and Abundance.

You will know if this message is for you. If it is, if you are indeed ready and feel that enough (mediocrity and just getting by) is enough, then...

Your time is now!

Get emancipated from your limiting beliefs!

Break through your mental and emotional barriers and begin to experience Total Success!

As a woman thinketh, so is she (mostly because her thoughts determine her actions, which in turn determine her results).

Have a fantastic day!

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