Know Thyself...

Quit focusing on outward things, which are really reflections of what goes on inside your mind.

You are not your body. You are not your possessions. You are a spirit being made in God's image. Your body houses the real you.

Your natural state is perfect health and abundance (for spirit does not know sickness nor poverty).

If your current (outward) reality does not reflect this, it is because you have let your circumstances control your life. Or, as someone put it, it is because you suffer from spiritual amnesia.

Knowing and acknowledging who you really are, and the implications of this Truth, and meditating on what it means, will put you in a position to cause your physical reality to reflect your true inner reality: perfect health, joy and abundance.

A healthy self-image, based on a foundation of the Knowledge of who you really are, is the starting point of all achievement, for you will never outperform the image you have of yourself.

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What I Like About Beyonce Knowles

They come to me in a state of quiet desperation and lack of hope, but more dangerously, they come in an attitude of need (you know, the 'I need a man' type of mentality).

If you know anyone like this, listen up close.

You don't 'need' a man. You don't 'need' anyone in order to be phenomenally attractive. You don't 'need' anyone's approval either ... except God's and yours.

The first part is easy. God loves and approves of you inspite of all the drama in your life. He may not always approve of the things you *do*, but you as a person, you've got God's approval in the bag, so no sweat there.

The big problem however, is how you feel about yourself.

When you don't feel good about yourself, for whatever reason, you are trapped into feeling you need approval from others to be somebody. You feel the sentiments expressed in songs like 'I can't live without you' ( a very needy, disempowering, limiting-belief-inducing, self-esteem crushing sentiment).

Girl, you've got to love yourself, inspite of everything.

Love yourself inspite of all your flaws - God loves you inspite of all your flaws so it doesn't matter if nobody else does (yet the truth of the matter is that the moment you begin to love yourself inspite of your flaws, you will begin to attract people who truly love and appreciate you for who you are, the way you are, for who is without their own flaws anyway?)

So, you've got to realize that as you are right now, you're good enough. Sure you daily strive to improve in every possible way, but even on your journey, you're good enough for where you're at.

You don't need a man's love to make you feel complete. All that nonsense is designed to keep you needy enough to fill the pockets of marketers who promote products that claim to help you find that love.

When you become a self-empowered and self-empowering woman, you become irresistable to the opposite sex. You become magnetic. Very attractive.

And all this without 'looking for Mr Right' too.

When you are empowered from within yourself, you are in a position to take your time and choose the partner you are most comfortable with. You're not desperate so you don't go for any guy that chats you up.

You know that you're worth the best and in time the right guy will make his way to you. You don't have to chase after him.

You don't have to dress like a hooker in a bid to 'be attractive'.

Guys can sense neediness and they find it repulsive.

Which brings me to the topic of this blog.

Beyonce Knowles.

One statement she made in her London concert the other day, summarizes what I like about her.

She said 'I'm all about empowering women'. Hear, hear!

She radiates the confidence that comes from within, the type of confidence that says 'I'm all that and a bag of chips, and I don't care if you agree with me or not!'

Do you get the impression that she has a needy bone in her body?

Now don't go listening to the loser gremlins inside your head who are saying things like 'sure she's confident, she's a beautiful woman and a millionaire to boot!'

If you listen to those gremlins saying things like this you're missing the boat entirely.

Remember, you become what you think about the most. It's a chicken and egg scenario. Self-fulfilling prophecy and all that.

First you've got to have an image of yourself as a confident, beautiful, successful, empowered, woman, who does not need any man, nor any person's approval to feel fantastic in her own skin.

That image is what projects out there, see. That image is what determines what you attract into your life, the calibre of people you attract into your life.

That's why women who suffer from domestic violence very often attract men who beat them up. They've got an image of themselves as women who get beaten up. In another blog entry/article I'll share Madea's solution to this sort of thing.

But for now let me leave you with this.

Empowerment is the key to attracting Mr Right. Empowerment is the key to attracting wealth and success into your life.

Empowerment has got to be from within, for your empowerment is all about your self-image.

Don't be waiting for someone to come and empower you cos what happens when they're gone?

To empower yourself, begin today to form an image of the empowered woman you desire to be. What do you look like, what sorts of things are you doing, etc. Create a vivid image of yourself as an empowered woman.

Speak words to yourself which agree with your image. Reject any thoughts of self-depreciation. Refuse to accept any lies about yourself, in spite of your past - your past does not equal your future, so don't think, speak or live as if it does.

Remember that nobody can disempower you or make you feel inferior without your permission.

So stop giving others and things, permission to steal your joy and confidence.

You're all that (and a bag of fat-free chips!)

Be empowered today - it's your choice.

Off the soap-box now :)

Blessings to ya.

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Who Do You Listen To?

In these days of economic turmoil, it's easy to get discouraged and despondent. The media daily sing song of woe, doom and gloom and how 'things are getting worse..'. It's easy to get caught up in that whole negative perspective.


The danger in this is of course that when your mind is in such a state of stinkin' thinkin', it is unable to ...

(a) Be alert to opportunities available for you to thrive financially in the present economic climate - yes, many people are quietly prospering in the midst of the 'recession'. Why not you? It may involve you thinking out of the box, doing certain things differently, etc, but you won't be in the right mental state to even contemplate these opportunities if you allow the media to paint things black and hopeless for you.

(b) Come up with solutions to your current challenges (pretty much the same sentiments as 'a' above).


This is not to say you should deny the existence of an economic crisis. The glass is indeed half empty, but it is also half full.


It simply means you acknowledge the current state of affairs, but then choose to respond to it in a way that leaves you thriving, growing and prospering.


Believe that there is a way for you to thrive in this day and the way will become clear to you.
Take appropriate action in full faith that it will bring about the results you desire.
Listen to tapes, read books, surround yourself with people who are making it inspite of the cries of 'doom and gloom' all around.


The fun in life is in overcoming challenges and thriving in spite of them as opposed to denying the existence of the challenges (pretty much like you can't claim there are no weeds in your garden and affirm 'there are no weeds', thinking that'll make them go away - they'll take over your garden if you do! - rather acknowledge that the weeds exist, then do what you have to do to overcome/get rid of them).


My point is that it is important for you to choose carefully who or what you listen to. Your mind is a fertile garden. Fill it with junk and your mental state will be such that you won't be able to produce results that prosper you. Fill it with good stuff and you will be empowered to see and take advantage of the great opportunities which surround you each day. You will be motivated (from within) to do what it takes to prosper in your field, or a different field if you so choose.


Who're you going to listen to?


Blessings to ya!


Kem

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Why Bother Setting Financial or Health Goals?

Some women wonder why I place a lot of emphasis on helping women achieve financial success or health-related success.

Few reasons, actually:

1) A survey I conducted placed these two at the top of the list (the question was 'what area do you face your biggest frustration'?) - you can take part in the survey here: Survey

2)Financial and Health goals are MEASURABLE. This means you can set specific measurable targets, and measure your progress easily at set intervals. For you to successfully achieve a goal, it must be measurable.

3)When you achieve your financial or health goals, other parts of your life improve as well. This is because the woman you become in the process of achieving those goals, is a woman who literally is empowered to attract all the other good things into her life (better relationships, career success, etc)

So you see, it pays for you to set financial and health goals for yourself. It's the sentiment expressed by Jim Rohn, whose mentor Earl Shoaf told to 'set a goal to become a millionaire for the person you have to become to earn that amount of money'.

It's the principle I applied in my career when I set a goal to excel in a major examination in a short period of time. The amount of studying I had to do in order to score highly in that exam, improved my knowledge base so much that my clinical practice took a quatum leap as well - in the process of achieving my goal of excelling in that exam, I had become a much better doctor .

In setting a specific financial goal for myself, I have had to become a better marketer, communicator, speaker, Coach, Trainer, Writer. These skills of course now benefit me in other areas of my life as well.

The examples go on and on, but I'm sure you get the picture.

My suggestion to you is this:if you wish to turn things around in your life, set a measurable goal for yourself (Eg to earn 'X' amount in the next 8 weeks, or to release 500 grams of excess fat every week) - focus on this goal, taking care to measure your progress as you go along. By the time you have achieved your goal, you will find that you have become a different, better person altogether.

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This is a good reason for you to take part in one of the Coaching programs available for you on this website. Hint: you could set a financial goal to recoup your entire investment before the program is over (that's my goal for you actually, so there'd be two of us working on the same goal for you - how powerful is that?)

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THE NEW 'WOMEN'S LIBERATION MOVEMENT' IS HERE!

Hint: this new 'movement' has nothing to do with feminism.

This is a movement which aims to liberate every woman from self-imposed limitations, shackles and obstacles which are preventing her from living life to the fullest. These barriers keep you from achieving success in every area of your life. And they are all within you, so don't be looking outside of yourself for someone or something to be liberated from. Good news is, the solution is all within you as well.

The new 'Women's Liberation Movement' aims to help you access this solution so that you can live your best life on a daily basis.

Are you a woman?

Do you feel unfulfilled in certain areas of your life? Does your life lack balance? Do you suffer from little self-confidence or low self-esteem? Would you like to enjoy your relationships, both with your significant other and with your friends, family and colleagues? Do you desire to be financially and emotionally independent? Do you desire total success?

If you've answered 'yes' to any of these questions, then 'The New Women's Liberation Movement' is for you. What is this new movement? It really is a mindset, a mental program which empowers you to be all you can be, no matter what you do. It is a way of thinking and a way of doing things which is not common but is guaranteed to bring about results once you adopt it.

You see, the reason for every challenge and adversity you face can be traced down to yourself directly or indirectly. Of course you have not deliberately put yourself in an undesirable position, but in all likelihood, you have attracted that situation to yourself. And no, this is not pollyanna-ish jargon. This is about accepting responsibility: the moment you accept responsibility for where you are right now, you begin to empower yourself to make the necessary changes to improve your situation.

When you join in The New Women's Liberation Movement, you will experience Total Success in every area of your life. You will discover the fool-proof, tired and tested formula for attracting the things and people you desire into your life, and you will be doing this with integrity every step of the way.

How Do You Join the new Women's Liberation Movement?

By simply deciding to. Decide that from today: you are turning your life around; you will achieve your goals and dreams; you will enjoy every day you are blessed with; you will be free from your limiting beliefs and negative influences. Once you make this decision in your private, quiet corner (you're not doing this for anyone else, but for you), you will become aware of all the resources available around you, to make things happen for you (when the student is ready...)

You must be willing and prepared to do the work involved though.

Laziness (mental, intellectual, emotional and physical laziness) will leave you imprisoned in a world of mediocrity, poverty and misery. Diligence, when applied to the Emancipation/Liberation Formula(TM), will raise you above your current circumstances and usher you into a world of Total Success and Abundance.

You will know if this message is for you. If it is, if you are indeed ready and feel that enough (mediocrity and just getting by) is enough, then...

Your time is now!

Get emancipated from your limiting beliefs!

Break through your mental and emotional barriers and begin to experience Total Success!

As a woman thinketh, so is she (mostly because her thoughts determine her actions, which in turn determine her results).

Have a fantastic day!

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Who you hangin' with?

I've recently been reminded about how important relationships in our lives. The people you hang out with influence you in some way or another. That's why it's important to build relationships with people whose influence is only positive.

Spend most of your time with people who have taken control of their lives and are going somewhere big. People who realize that they have unlimited potential for good and are working to realize it.

Don't spend time with people who refuse to take responsibility for their lives and would rather be up to date with the latest soap opera on tv (rightly dubbed the 'automatic income reducer') or tabloid story.

Choose your companions wisely.

Value those relationships that add value to your life. Add value to every relationship you are a part of.

Keep at a distance those who would drag others, or you, down (if you let them).

Remember, bad company corrupts good character.

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It's not what happens ya...

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The Enlightened Woman: Your Choice

Life is beautiful. We each have the power to choose what we become, which way we go, what we think about and what we do.

The Enlightened Woman knows this. She recognizes that she is responsible for the consequences of her choices. She's got no time nor desire to blame anyone else for her mistakes. She simply learns from them and gets on with life.

Being thus enlightened, she is empowered to make things happen in her life. She is in control of her outcomes, for the most part. She is vibrant, happy, healthy, wealthy, loving, kind.

All because she chooses to be so.

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